House of Scorpio > The PAL System (Pervy Activity Liaison)
Both our Code of Conduct and the PAL system, reproduced below in its entirety, have been adapted with permission from the San Francisco institution, Kinky Salon. Unless we specify otherwise, you must always bring a PAL to HoS events.
In order to help maintain a safe, playful, and responsibly hedonistic playspace (and prevent wanky men lurking in the shadows), we use a technique called the Pervy Activity Liaison, or PAL. Whether you are male or female, if you want to come to one of our events, these rules apply:
|The PAL System|
Lacking a PAL? Come to our social events that don't require PALs and get to know our people. Over time, you may get to know someone well enough for you to PAL each other. If you're an approved regular in good standing who temporarily lacks a PAL, you can volunteer for the play events (two hours of setup before or one hour of breakdown after). Not only do you get a discount on admission, but we'll vet you for the party.
F.A.S.Q. (Frequently Asked Stupid Questions about the PAL system)
I am a single guy. Am I welcome? YES! As long as you are respectful, have read and understand the Code of Conduct, have a PAL whom you know and trust with you, and are not in street clothes, you are welcome. But we recommend attending the non-play events, as it can be pretty awkward standing around being single while the rest of the room gets it on. Come to the mixers first; meet some people.
I am a single guy. Can my PAL be another single guy? YES! As long as you know and trust them, can testify to their good character and agree to keep an eye on each other, your PAL can be any gender. And we think boys playing together is a beautiful thing :) We will note, though, that if you're a STRAIGHT guy, you may want to come with a female friend or a couple. It'll be better for everyone if you do.
I am a single girl. Do I really need to bring a PAL? YES! A PAL can be another girl, a single guy or a couple.
We are a couple, and we have a single friend. Can we bring them with us? YES! Please do! However, one PAL can't be more than two people, as it becomes much harder to hold people accountable. If your group is more than three people, please split it up into 1 or 2-person PALs.
Can I come with a group of three or more single PALs? YES! But: once you have more than three people in a group, you must split up into smaller PAL units (1+1 or 1+2). Remember, each PAL is held responsible for the other's behavior, so if there's a problem in your group, you can ALL end up facing the consequences.
Can I meet someone online, arrive with them, and then go off and party? NO! You must know your PAL, be able to testify to their good character and trust them. To come to the event with someone you don't fully know and trust is disrespectful to our community and compromises the safety of the space (and may get YOU kicked out if they do something stupid). That means DO NOT post on Facebook or message our guests looking for PALs, as you'll only get yourself banned from our events, as will anyone stupid enough to take you up on it.
I know someone else who is going. If I buy tickets late, can I arrange at the last minute for them to be my PAL? YES! As long as they are there to meet you at the door when you arrive, and each PAL is no more than two people.
If I arrive 15 minutes before my PAL, can I hang out at the party till they arrive? YES! But we will ask you to stay near the door so that you are there when they arrive to check in.
Why do we need to leave together? You don't want to be held responsible for another person's late-night shenanigans. If you do leave without your PAL, we will still hold you responsible for your PAL's behaviour.
What happens if my PAL misbehaves? First we will talk to them, and then we will talk to you. If we have to talk to you again, you will be asked to leave, and you'll both get a permanent warning on file with us. If it's a serious offense, then they will be banned, and you will get a warning. If you are not there, we will contact you after the event. If we can't make contact with you, neither of you will be welcome back in the future.
Will I get kicked out if my PAL misbehaves? You might. It depends on the situation.
What if I am new in town, single and don't know anyone? We always host no-PAL-required events that are a great place to meet our community. We also recommend connecting to poly, Burning Man and other open-minded circles to meet new people. However you meet them, just make sure you get to know them before you bring them to our parties as your PAL. In other words: do NOT ask anyone in our Facebook group, on dating sites, on FetLife, etc to be your PAL. You don't know them, and they don't know you. Asking on any of our Facebook pages or reaching out to members via messages will get you instnatly banned from all parties going forward.